I can’t make this shit up

idontwearties:

ftmfeminist:

angrybanette:

ftmfeminist:

Cisgender gay man: But there’s no point in being a man if you’re just going to have sex with men anyway.
Me:

WAAAAAT

cisgender gay men

you just explained

why you should not exist.

I know! Even reading it it seems like it can’t be real, like this can’t have been a REAL FUCKING CONVERSATION that took place between myself and a cis gay man. But it’s real. A cis gay man REALLY said this to me.

I can’t even…

I just.

I can not compute the stupidity of what this guy said to you.

What.

What

Bisexuality and Monogamy: Identity Erasure and “Picking A Side”

hiphopcheerleader:

queersexed:

thisgenderedlife:

I saw a blog comment discussing bisexuality where an individual stated, “we watched that trend, and we watched it fade as these women, (the majority who claim bi are women)- grew up, really learned who they were, and picked a side.”

First of all, I’m pretty sure the statistics on bisexuality are skewed by the homophobic nature of society, in which it is unacceptable for men to show “womanly” behaviors such as being attracted to other men.

Secondly, bisexuality doesn’t suddenly disappear when a person who identifies as bisexual enters a long-term, monogamous relationship with a binary-gendered person.  A bisexual woman who enters into a relationship with another woman is NOT a lesbian.  She is a bisexual woman who is in a relationship with a woman.  Why?  Because she identifies as bisexual.  The person you love does not change your identity.

Bisexuality is not a stepping stone, it’s not an excuse, and it’s not a farce.  It’s a real identifier that describes how someone views their romantic attraction in relation to binary-gendered people.

Why does it seem like bisexuals “pick a side?”  Because a monogamous relationship with a binary-gendered person only shows you half of their attraction.  Sure, it seems like that bisexual woman is “really” a lesbian—she’s dating a woman!  The obvious assumption is that she is attracted to women.  Should that relationship end, and that bisexual woman enter into a relationship with a man, you might see her as straight.  

This is why you should never judge people based on what you see.  You have no idea what’s really going on.  Check your assumptions, and stop jumping to conclusions.

Wrote this almost a year ago for my personal blog, but I think its relevant to QSE as well.

always relevant.

dressed-in-sunshine:

caffeinatedfeminist:

klondikebar123:

reem-ster:

glitter-femin1sts:

mattyaye:

I hope this gets a lot of notes.

WOW
WOW 
brb going to burn my owl city CD

Fucking hell

Damnit. I really enjoyed some of his songs, but now I just cannot bring myself to enjoy them.

God damn it, is this for real?
I love his music, but I can’t if he’s going to be a major dickface.

Wasn’t this a hack though?

Until I see a source, I will not be breaking up my like of a very talented person. It’s pretty public that Adam is Christian, but he has not expressed any of such views before, and I doubt he would suddenly do so now, especially so suddenly. 
I’d like to remind everyone to CHECK THEIR SHIT before they post it. I cannot find any indication that this is real, so I will, for the moment, disregard it. 

dressed-in-sunshine:

caffeinatedfeminist:

klondikebar123:

reem-ster:

glitter-femin1sts:

mattyaye:

I hope this gets a lot of notes.

WOW

WOW

brb going to burn my owl city CD

Fucking hell

Damnit. I really enjoyed some of his songs, but now I just cannot bring myself to enjoy them.

God damn it, is this for real?

I love his music, but I can’t if he’s going to be a major dickface.

Wasn’t this a hack though?

Until I see a source, I will not be breaking up my like of a very talented person. It’s pretty public that Adam is Christian, but he has not expressed any of such views before, and I doubt he would suddenly do so now, especially so suddenly. 

I’d like to remind everyone to CHECK THEIR SHIT before they post it. I cannot find any indication that this is real, so I will, for the moment, disregard it. 

So I went to a high-school as a favor for a previous teacher of mine to present as an LGBT alumni for the panel of younger GSA students…

One: They’re sooooo intolerably adorable! 

Two: Over half of them lit up and started cheering when I mentioned tumblr. Aaaaa all the good tumblr feels! ;u;

Three: I had a freudian slip while I was discussing why I was not out to my family yet: Instead of saying “it’s my own business what I do and who with” I said “It’s my own business who I do and what with.”

They laughed.

But it was more accurate.

I feel no shame. 

normal friends

Welp, this happened a while ago, after a Halloween party, but it was pretty much this exact thing. 

The word ‘normal’ is pretty flexible, but I can’t exactly vouch that my friends are… any of those definitions. I mean, obviously they’re fun and I love them, but sometimes I just have to sit back and think “wow, what the fuck did we smoke”.

(I totally started drawing this right before someone I follow mentioned that other people apparently get asked this EXACT SAME QUESTION. So if you are confused, I think that all parents are synchronized.)

and then I went on facebook and saw that someone had commented about how “marriage is a religion institution and why aren’t the gays happy with their civil unions” and I wrote a paragraph and then beat my head against the wall until it bled and then i realized I did not care

i do not care

i do not

Self-Defense and the Criminalization of Survival

transfeminism:

It was just announced that CeCe McDonald, who was being charged with two counts of second-degree murder in an incident of self-defense, has just taken a plea-deal—second degree manslaughter with a recommended 41 month sentence. CeCe McDonald’s sentencing hearing will be in a month.

But Ms. McDonald isn’t the first young Black trans woman to be thrown in jail and aggressively prosecuted for surviving a violent attack on her life. Unfortunately, without real systematic change, she isn’t likely to be the last either.

It should be no secret that young trans women of color (TWOC) are being murdered at alarming rates. This is a social problem largely ignored by most people, including the media, the service/nonprofit sector and government. But this is something people in the affected communities can’t afford to ignore.

But attacks on the lives of TWOC don’t go without resistance, and when TWOC resist sometimes their attackers end up dead. This was the case with Ms. McDonald, but it was also the case last year with Akira Jackson, a Black trans woman currently serving a four-year sentence for “manslaughter” for stabbing her boyfriend in self-defense when he beat her with a baseball bat.

Jackson, a Detroit native, moved to the California Bay Area where she became an advocate for young TWOC. She was a Program Specialist from TLISH (Transgender Ladies Initiating Sisterhood), a transgender youth program where she spent her time counseling young women about housing, government assistance, and employment.

If Ms. McDonald and Ms. Jackson weren’t Black trans women it is likely that their cases might not have ended up differently. By being criminalized for their survival, these two women share something in common with many other women of color, including the New Jersey 4, a group of Black lesbian women who were attacked in the New York City’s West Village and later aggressively prosecuted for defending themselves. The attacker fully recovered, but the women were forced to serve time.

It’s a sad irony that we promote self-defense classes as a way of combating violence against women, yet many of the women of color, trans and cis alike, are currently imprisoned precisely because they fought back against violence in their homes and in the streets.

Too often trans and queer women of color survive violence in their homes and on the streets only to have the police, courts and prison-industrial complex come after them for having the audacity to survive in a world where, as Audre Lorde said in her poem “A Litany For Survival,” they “were never meant to survive.”

Fuuuuck.

I feel super-paranoid as well because last semester I worked at a school who helped kids graduate if they were in an unstable family situation or homeless - and I was assigned to the GLBT classroom. Those kids are super fucking great but legitimately, they have enough on their shoulders without having a sword hanging over their neck when stories like this occur - I mean, how the fuck are you supposed to choose between defending yourself to stay safe, and going to jail for defending yourself?! I hope all of them are okay - I haven’t visited in a while. ;__;

spastasmagoria:

pervyrasslincaps:

in-her-hips-theres-revolutions:

hahaha

Oh fucking THIS.

Accurate.
REBLOGGING BECAUSE GREAT DARWIN
MY STEP-FATHER ACTUALLY SAID THIS ONCE:
“I don’t care what gay people do in their free time but I don’t want them to come over and start hitting on me for no reason!”

spastasmagoria:

pervyrasslincaps:

in-her-hips-theres-revolutions:

hahaha

Oh fucking THIS.

Accurate.

REBLOGGING BECAUSE GREAT DARWIN

MY STEP-FATHER ACTUALLY SAID THIS ONCE:

“I don’t care what gay people do in their free time but I don’t want them to come over and start hitting on me for no reason!”

howarethosenuts:

most beautiful marriage equality ad EVER

I want to freak out subconsciously, but at the same time it’s really well-done and I just LOVE the concept and aaaaaah happiness!

mesange03:im-not-o-fucking-hungry:

PLEASE REBLOG - IT ONLY TAKES 5 MINUTES

Unfortunately, it’s business as usual in the old country.

I’m not surprised, and I doubt a petition will stop the Putin administration (it’s a naive nice thought) but you could certainly try…?

I know it’s crazy - but even partially non-religious people are against gays sometimes.

I don’t know, my mother is a little nut sometimes. I mean, I love her, and in all other things she’s wise, but the American media has taken its toll on her and she’s about 3 illogical conclusions away from claiming that the dinosaurs went extinct because their genetics all turned them gay because the species was failing and the biology of every creature on earth knows how to wipe itself out in order to make room for the next stage of Darwinian supremacy - BEING FAAABULOUS.

The sad thing is, I’m not even really kidding.

In addition to my previous post, let’s have a little more ranting…

Guess what being queer in high-school taught me? NO ONE CARES ABOUT YOUR SHIT. Everyone is a fucking asshole. Even if you grow up and become an adult, you’re still surrounded by people who, at the tender age of 35, will need someone to wipe their ass for them.

The point of growing up is being able to SEE IT and RECOGNIZE IT and then CLIMBING OUT OF IT. Not just sitting there and going I’M OPREEEEE-HE-HE-HESSSED

Yeah, shit happens. I’m had my fair share of it, and hell, even my mother threatening to make me switch schools just to isolate me from all of my “bad, gay” friends and social support wasn’t the worst. And sure, it only made me retreat further back into the closet than fucking Narnia. But you know what? It teaches fucking resilience. It teaches you how to fight, how to fix things.

And with that, you can help change things for the next generation.

Instead of sitting there.

Twiddling your thumbs.

Going “gee, this show sucks, everyone is so mean”.  

gladoslaughingalonewithscience:

I just remembered this post and so then I had to make it into an actual image
I APOLOGIZE FOR NOTHING

gladoslaughingalonewithscience:

I just remembered this post and so then I had to make it into an actual image

I APOLOGIZE FOR NOTHING

animalstalkinginallcaps:

NO I DO NOT NEED TO EAT, MOM. I NEED YOU TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YOUR HETERONORMATIVE IDEALS AND DRACONIAN ADHERENCE TO TRADITIONAL GENDER BINARIES CLOUD YOUR ABILITY TO ACCEPT THE WORLD AS IT SHOULD BE AND PREVENT YOU FROM MAKING CHANGES THAT MIGHT FREE US FROM THE DESTRUCTIVE AND THREATENING OPPRESSION OF A PRIVILEGED RULING MALE CLASS. I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND GENDER INEQUALITY AND THE STRUGGLE OF THE LGBT COMMUNITY AGAINST THE PREVAILING HEGEMONY SO THAT FUTURE GENERATIONS CAN TRULY EXPERIENCE EQUALITY AND FREEDOM OF CHOICE, SOCIAL MOBILITY AND A SENSE OF PEACE, NOT SUBJECT THEMSELVES TO INFERIOR ROLES WITHIN A FLAWED AND OVERREACHING SYSTEM OF DOMINANCE AND FEAR.
I SPENT ALL DAY OVER A HOT STOVE TO PUT FOOD ON THE TABLE. EAT SOMETHING.
OH MY GOD! DO YOU SEE WHAT I MEAN?


(on the other hand, I am lol’in so hard right now, that’s precious, and I love it, really, but if my child started reading lectures to me after I tried to feed it… just no. There is a time and place for everything.) 

animalstalkinginallcaps:

NO I DO NOT NEED TO EAT, MOM. I NEED YOU TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YOUR HETERONORMATIVE IDEALS AND DRACONIAN ADHERENCE TO TRADITIONAL GENDER BINARIES CLOUD YOUR ABILITY TO ACCEPT THE WORLD AS IT SHOULD BE AND PREVENT YOU FROM MAKING CHANGES THAT MIGHT FREE US FROM THE DESTRUCTIVE AND THREATENING OPPRESSION OF A PRIVILEGED RULING MALE CLASS. I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND GENDER INEQUALITY AND THE STRUGGLE OF THE LGBT COMMUNITY AGAINST THE PREVAILING HEGEMONY SO THAT FUTURE GENERATIONS CAN TRULY EXPERIENCE EQUALITY AND FREEDOM OF CHOICE, SOCIAL MOBILITY AND A SENSE OF PEACE, NOT SUBJECT THEMSELVES TO INFERIOR ROLES WITHIN A FLAWED AND OVERREACHING SYSTEM OF DOMINANCE AND FEAR.

I SPENT ALL DAY OVER A HOT STOVE TO PUT FOOD ON THE TABLE. EAT SOMETHING.

OH MY GOD! DO YOU SEE WHAT I MEAN?

(on the other hand, I am lol’in so hard right now, that’s precious, and I love it, really, but if my child started reading lectures to me after I tried to feed it… just no. There is a time and place for everything.) 

misterstibbons:

They should have gay libraries. 

Like gay bars, but full of books instead of alcohol, and all of the drag queens are actually librarians.

And if you are interested in another patron you can go into one of the many soundproof study rooms and have loud, passionate

debates

and conversation.