Noon:30
Yo dude! (I say dude to everyone regardless of gender, so hopefully that doesn't offend) I saw your "queer platonic request form" and I think it's a great idea and really cool!! The only thing that was a little confusing is the fact that "platonic" means a not sexual relationship, but you had "have sex" as one of the "I'd like to do these things" activities. Why did you do that?

Yooo, thanks for asking! Here’s the reason.

Platonic can mean non-sexual when it comes to conversation about relationships, but it can also mean non-romantic. I happen to be the latter. I’m an aromantic sort of person, which means I’m not really capable of falling in love. Never have, never see myself doing it.

When I made that graphic, I made it for a queer platonic relationship advice blog which focuses on aromantic relationships. However, even if two people aren’t romantically invested in their relationship, they can be sexually attracted to each other. That’s why the ‘have sex’ thing is there.

Also, technically ace (asexual) peeps can have sex too. Just because they’re ace doesn’t mean they’re celibate, so… You know. Whatever they decide to do. I don’t really see movies unless my friends invite me, because I’m not into movies. But I still go if my friends ask, because it’s something fun to do together.

princeloptr:

people who think “labels r bad” are laboring underneath a fundamental misunderstanding of language and of human psychology

i encourage these people to look up information on color as a social construct (heres a place to start)

why is this relevant? well, this might come as a shock to you, but the human ability to see and distinguish color is directly related to how we define color with words. the language of color usually evolves from a few dichotomies — dark and light, cold and warm. how it develops from there is dependant on the culture — and their environment — and the consequence of this is that different cultures may have completely different perceptions of color

if the language you have at your disposal doesnt distinguish between two types of color — for example, different warmths of brown, or the hue differences between yellow-green and blue-green — then you may find it difficult to actually see the difference between those colors. someone who speaks a language that does? would see the contrast like night and day

think about that for awhile. mull it over in your mind. think about all the things you begin to notice as soon as you learn the words for them. think about how taxonomy effects you in your daily life. NAMES ARE IMPORTANT. names are the difference between the visible and invisible

if you find yourself chafing at the idea of people giving names (“labels”) to themselves, think about this: what is it that youre trying not to see?

The concept of language presented here is called Linguistic Relativity, and it’s also called the Sapir Whorf Hypothesis and it’s been… disproved. Or at least, the strong theory has been.

By ‘the strong theory’ here I’m referring to your presented idea that people who don’t have a word for the color can’t see the color as well as people who do. By this extent, there are millions of people in several asian and african language circles who are limited in the color palette that they see. By this extent, also, home-renovator-moms are ready to take on the Mantis Shrimp in a competition of ‘guess the color’ because they’ve memorized all the shades of paint at Home Depot.

This has been tested and it simply isn’t true. The difference for speakers of Russian between light blue and dark blue (which does have a verbal distinction) isn’t “light and day” for them than it is for American speakers, who only have light/dark adjectives to distinguish the shades. They can more easily name it because they’re trained throughout their life to distinguish those two linguistically in a different way, but they’re not any more likely to be able to be color savants when it comes to blue.

THAT BEING SAID, words we have at our disposal DO affect us. They’re important milestones for our social development. If you’re a doctor and have an interest (even a financial one) in bodyparts to keep your job, you’re gonna fucking know a femur from a humerus instead of just saying “long limb bony thing”. If you’re an artist, you know several things like color theory and cross-hatching and etc… that might not make it into the vocab of other people. Because it’s important to you, and it makes expressing your ideas easier. Nowadays, labels regarding sexuality/romantic orientation are becoming the norm. Probably a good time to learn the terms.

I’m all for labels, really. They’re a natural part of creating language to suit our needs. But please don’t make it seem like people who prefer not to use them are struggling behind the rest of you like uneducated neanderthalls unable to distinguish between homoromantic and hetroromantic. It doesn’t take a label to understand the difference.

In fact, if you prefer not to use labels, FINE. That’s fucking cool. When you’re in the process of figuring out what you are, labels can sometimes seem like menacing traps, not friendly helpful umbrellas to run under. (That might be in part the responsibility of the community to portray themselves as open and accepting.)

But if you refuse to learn someone else’s identity because you don’t ‘see labels’ or don’t like to use them… well… you’re just being a dick and refusing to learn something about your friend that might be extremely important to them and a huge part of their identity.

tastefullyoffensive:

Illustrated Dad Jokes by @swatercolour

Previously: Funny and Cute Illustrations by Jaco Haasbroek

rblogging for reference.

why android users get so mad when a new iphone come out?? relax yaself and ya ugly ass phone

phoenixflorid:

I’ve literally never seen anyone who uses android complain about apple phones. I have no idea where people get the idea that there’s some kind of war going on. Literally the only thing I’ve ever seen as a form of phone-conversation between Android and iPhone has been “is that an iOS app or do they have an android one?” Seriously? Where are you getting this idea? 

from literally all my friends who use android..? like it’s gotten to harassment levels and I’ve had to have stern conversations about how they need to shut up and stop saying shitty things about me being in a cult???

pls bop your friends on the head for me, they’re being fuckin’ weirdos. I swear having an android doesn’t make people assholes. I’ve had minor issue with a few people teasing me about not having an iPhone, but that’s only been because the people were rude, not because of the phone they owned……

Peace between OS, guys. Peace. 

No matter what phone you own, be nice to people that own a different one.

I’m falling behind a bit… October 18th #delcatty

I’m falling behind a bit… October 18th #delcatty

bless you both.

bless you both.

erm…. I got really into this and ended up doodling kashima and hori? Erm….
There’s no excuse….
I’m pretty sure Kashima is stronger than Hori is, but lets him win their fights because…. well there’s a reason but I haven’t written that fanfiction yet, hohohoho

erm…. I got really into this and ended up doodling kashima and hori? Erm….

There’s no excuse….

I’m pretty sure Kashima is stronger than Hori is, but lets him win their fights because…. well there’s a reason but I haven’t written that fanfiction yet, hohohoho

doubleohmogar:

franerys:

katiebpeters:

chloereneeeee:

How many altos does it take to screw in a lightbulb?
None, they can’t get that high.

How many sopranos does it take to screw in a lightbulb?

One, she holds it up and waits for the world to revolve around her.

How many singers does it take to screw in a lightbulb?

Two. An alto to actually do it and a soprano to stand by and ask “isn’t that a little high for you?”

u wanna fucking go

I love this manga more and more.
Don’t worry Nozaki, Tomoda will have his happy ending.

I love this manga more and more.

Don’t worry Nozaki, Tomoda will have his happy ending.

Nozaki is me. I am Nozaki. We are one.

Nozaki is me. I am Nozaki. We are one.

why android users get so mad when a new iphone come out?? relax yaself and ya ugly ass phone

I’ve literally never seen anyone who uses android complain about apple phones. I have no idea where people get the idea that there’s some kind of war going on. Literally the only thing I’ve ever seen as a form of phone-conversation between Android and iPhone has been “is that an iOS app or do they have an android one?” Seriously? Where are you getting this idea? 

gravitationaltimothy:

sixpenceee:

Francis is another short horror film about a daring 17 year old girl, who finds herself alone in the middle of a lake. Trouble starts to brew. We find ourselves with more questions than answers at the end. (Watch it here) (Masterpost of creepy short films)

As someone who loves horror, animation and games, I would never forgive myself if I didn’t share that great masterpost

If you like plainly creepy stuff, then I recommend this. There’s no jump scenes, only the psychological horror of it to keep you on your toes.

neptunain:

"GENTLEMEN, WE ARE AT WAR WITH TROY AND MUST NOT DROP OUR GUARD AT ALL"

"sir, the enemy gave us a giant wooden horse"

"oh rad bring it in"

The Folktale of Right Person

aromanticaardvark:

Inspired by the last ask I answered, I want to address a folktale that’s common for aromantic people to hear, and also for people with non-heterosexual heteroromantic orientations of any type to hear.

Right Person is a guy or gal (depending on your gender - and they will always be the binary gender that is not what you identify or are read as) you might be familiar with. they are the person who will come down from heaven and make you normal. They are heterosexual, alloromantic, allosexual, monogamous, vanilla, and want a typical whitebread marriage and 2.5 children. Anything that’s ‘wrong’ (read: not normative) about your orientation or desires, they will magically fix. It’s not that you will meet them and perhaps realize you were bisexual instead of gay or gray-romantic instead of aromantic; no, instead they will transform you completely, so that any trace of “weird” is completely blotted out. People who are heteroromantic heterosexuals with desires society deems ‘acceptable’ never have to hear this folk tale. 

You’ll often hear about Right Person at family dinners, or from your (usually heterosexual heteroromantic, though not always) friends. It goes like this: “Oh, when you meet Right Person, you’ll change your mind.”

The problem with Right Person is, like most folk tale characters, they don’t appear. Or they don’t appear in the way that the person telling you this tale imagines them to, anyway. Maybe you will find a person that makes you rethink how you previously thought of your orientation, but in most cases you won’t do a complete 180 with your orientation. Maybe you’ll start identifying as bisexual instead of gay, or demiromantic instead of aromantic, but in the majority of cases most people don’t completely change their orientation. It happens, but it’s rare. 

And even though it happens, it’s still an incredibly cruel thing to say to someone, because it implies that that person’s orientation is not real. It implies they don’t know themselves, and that once Right Person comes along, they will realize how ridiculous they were. It implies that the person telling this folk tale has a kind of authority when it comes to the person they’re telling it to’s orientation, and makes them feel discounted. 

What happens is a lot of aromantic spectrum people (or people who are not heteroromantic heterosexual, but I’m speaking specifically to aromantic spectrum people since this is an aro blog) end up believing it. They end up really waiting for the Right Person. So they wait, and wait, and wait. And in most cases, that person doesn’t come, because it isn’t a case of having not met Right Person; it’s a case of being aromantic spectrum. And even when they do come, it’s not in the way that society wants them to. 

What I’m saying is: Right Person isn’t real. Right Person is a fairy tale character. Know that you know yourself better than anyone else. If someone does come along that makes you rethink your orientation labels, by all means change it. But don’t hold out for Right Person. 

(And note that I’m not saying no one ever has the experience of finding the ‘right person’ that makes them rethink identifying as aromantic. I think there is a difference between finding that and the folk tale character of Right Person.) 

good. Please read.

Disney’s Feast - Special Look

*deep heavy breathing*

B B B BB BOSTON TERRIERRRRRRRRRRR