my mum would just get upset/angry at me when i cut my hair short by telling me it looks bad and people will think i’m gay or want to be a boy. i dunno what’s worse, being angry or not talking altogether?
aw yeah, hahaha, well that’s basically what happened there too.
According to my mom shaving one side of my head creates the following realities:
I’m selfish, I’m begging for attention, I look sick, I look like a cancer patient, I look like I hate myself, I want people to think I hate them, I’m begging for attention and am a specifal snowflake, I hate my body, I hate my assigned sex, I want people to hate me, I hate people, I am childish and no one will hire me.
Anyway, the point is: this is a very good time to learn that mothers are just people with prejudices, and none of this is true. I hope that when I grow up I don’t internalize some of this weird shit she’s pushing off on me and just let my kids explore their own body the way they want to, and be comfortable with it, and be comfortable with changing it and know that who they are on the inside doesn’t depend on what they look like, or what others think they look like.